Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

I don't know what to do

because

"Should I reciprocate affection if she initiates?"

It's how she is keepin you under wraps. You are dying for us tell you to go for it. it would be fine if you knew how to play it. you aren't there.

If you were thinking you might have some ideas on what would work.

Three weeks is a long time. Be wise. What's important is now.

So what I'm hearing is that I can reciprocate, but since I'm not fully detached, it's not good for me to do so right now. She doesn't feel she has lost me, so by me reciprocating affection, it just tells her that I'm not detached and she still has me under her thumb.

You're also saying that if I was fully detached, reciprocating affection to her that she initiates would not be a bad thing because she would know that she has lost me, and her mentality would be that of pursuing, rather than maintaining.

Correct?