MLC or not?

[fisherman]

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Ahhh hell... Where's Lance when you need him? I'm kidding, that should do it. It may take a little time, I'm not sure.

I do the NC and then he will do something a few weeks later I think to push my buttons so I will contact him even though he won't respond.

They will often try to push your buttons and get you to react negatively. Sometimes it's almost like they have this need to keep contact for some reason. Yes, it's strange, but what isn't around here? Other times it's actually legit, they really do need to speak to you for a valid reason, whether it involves the kids, or financial stuff or whatever.

It's up to you to decide on what to respond (not react) to and what to let go.

H has gone completely dark now, so looks like things are getting worse instead of better. He has been dark since the beginning of June.

Is this the normal of a MLC'er to do after this long?

Please watch your thoughts, you are already getting off on the negative foot by assuming this is a bad thing. Sometimes they will vanish because they NEED space to work on their issues, which is good. No more negative expectations should be your goal.

You said normal and MLC'er in the same sentence. Yes, many will pop in and out like this.

I really thought he was seeing the light a little bit with offering to help with grocery money and soccer and not signing a lease this time and a couple of other little things but I guess I was wrong.

You really need to work hard to arrive at a place mentally as to where you are not trying to read into his every word or action. Most of the time they simply are what they are.(In mlc they are usually all about him) This would be another example of an expectation.

So down again, I was feeling better the week before last and now it's like he did a complete turn around the following week.

Be patient and keep working hard. He took you along with him this time.