"If that is what you think is best for you then do it." When you argue/defend he feels like you are deciding.
If I say that, he will view it as a challenge, which will prompt him to move forward. His self esteem is so low (which I can't figure out why other then it stems back to childhood)that he gets defensive very easily. When he gets in these moods, I try to steer clear until they pass. Thus my effort to stall with my reply.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
