How could he have made that exchange more positive?
But yes. I get what you're saying. I should have actually suggested he could have said this:
Originally Posted By: FMV
'Hey that sounds like fun, but no thanks - I think I'd rather do 'x'"
instead of what he did say? Or is that being controlling?
Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
then that little voice in the back of my head says 'then why be married'? Because it's not all negative? Because another little voice tells you, "No one person can fulfill all of your needs"?
Yes the negativity thing makes sense - I do seem to have a miserable time seeing the positive once I see a negative.
But is it really expecting him to fulfill all my needs to just hope he might want to do what I want to do the occassional time, without having to put me down for it and go on about what he'd rather do instead? Is this really being that needy?
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
