After our last discussion, he came to me and said he'd come after all, "if I wanted him to". Pfft. Great. I know he's trying to make things better in his own way,
He's either "trying to make things better in his own way," or jerking you around. Only you can decide which it is. And act on that.
Originally Posted By: FindingMyVoice
but why does this make me feel so ... I can't even identify the feeling. Like now he feels sorry for me? I remember when I was still dating, a couple of guys had let me know they thought I was boring. I think the term used once was 'a stick in the mud'. I don't know if I am. I think it's all relative. But I do know I'm tired of feeling like I have to defend that I'm not. When the interactions with people in my life seem to often make me feel like I am.
FMV, you know by now that nobody can "make" you feel anything. You control that. Some guys had negative perceptions of you while you were dating. I'll bet you had negative perceptions of some of them. That's what dating is: sizing up for "fit". But continually feeling like you have to defend who and what you are to the people in your life is something to tackle head on with your IC and...find your voice. imho.
Peace,
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
