How To Tell The Kids

[Ready2Change]

Hi Dan,

I read your last couple posts last night. You did good.

From my divorce agreement:

"We acknowledge and agree that although it is desirable to dissolve our marital relationship, it is not in the best interest of our children to dissolve our parental relationship.. Accordingly, we agree and confirm that it is in the best interest of our children that we share parental responsibilities for our children."

"Shared decision making: ....we shall discuss all major decisions....make all such decisions together".

"Day to day decisions...shall be made by the parent with whom they are staying"

"If we are unable to agree we shall consult appointed parenting coordinator"

The meat of mine:

"Normal Parenting schedule"

The Children will reside with Father every Monday and Tuesday and with Mother every Wednesday and Thursday. The parties will alternate the weekends (Friday, Saturday, Sunday).

Beginning the first Friday of summer school break, the children will alternate week long parenting time. The non-residential parent shall have a dinner visit on Tuesday evening.

If this week long parenting schedule goes well and is supported by the kids therapist and the parenting coordinator, then the schedule shall carry into the school year.

I got 50/50 any way I could...I had clause to get it to week on/week off--supported by two professionals.

After D, MsR2C and I reach agreement through email exchanges to change dinner visit from Tuesday to Wednesday (at her request and several lies at first...)

I suggest you next offer to her this (Days are overnights):

Mother: Sunday/Monday
Father: Tuesday/Wednesday
Alternate: Thursday/Friday/Saturday
This is a 2/5/5/2

And have a clause similar to mine about migrating to week to week. a 7/7 with midweek diner visit.

Be attractive: Do not back down for what is right:

Your relationship with your kids.

Your responsibility as a parent. Anything less than 50/50 shows weakness and is unattractive to women.Agreeing to less is different than being forced to less.

This plan work out to her having 209 nights with the kids to my 156.

This is good thing...This is the minimum you have to settle for! The less equal, the more it HURTS YOUR KIDS....Keep leading! Stand firm on your belief for equal.