I am so sorry you are going through this. It is true the more you talk to him about the R, M, and the OW the more it pushes him away. That is what I am struggling with;I feel like I need to stick up for myself but right now it is all about his feelings. My husband is considering moving out of the family home I am just going to focus on myself and enjoy my time with my daughter(she is a senior in high school). Like I said I am going to focus on myself;working out at the Y and a joined weight watchers. I am going to go out with friends this Friday night something I havent done in seventeen years.