PS You want her to talk then be interesting and interested.
Gah. I let her go. She needs to make her own choices, otherwise I'm just controlling her again. She wants to stay and work on us; she wants to continue counseling. So now I tell her no, that won't work anymore? Just GTFO? If she was just trying to use the counseling as validation for leaving (like she did with our previous counselor) I might agree. But she isn't.
I didn't do anything to discourage her from leaving; either visiting friends or separating. I just listened to her; she said that she didn't want to burn any bridges by leaving; that she wanted to be sure.
