depends on the source. but it made some sense to me. yes, i did it to myself. can't stop analyzing and contingency planning.
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If it was truly a deal breaker.. you would have already been filing. The way I "see" it is it is just you looking for the answer. Again.. I don't think it would change things for you.
Assume he is. It is the smart thing to do.
What now?
well, if that was the case the i file. but you told me to hold off on the filing. let him do it if that's what he wants.
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Your L is telling you to try and have a sit down with him.
That seems fairly important to me.
yes but i have to have a means of contacting him. he won't answer the door, won't take my calls, blocked me from every IM app out there, oh yeah .. and blocked me from his cell phone. that's why i got nothing back from the text i sent.
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I don't care if he ever "sees" it. This is not the goal. He has to make the choice to come back. If he does.. I want you ready. I am thinking ahead.. and preparing you for what might come. You are still living in the moment.
i want him to make the choice to come back as well. but what i see is that he's made his choice. sorry, THEY have made his choice and he agrees with it.
i want to be ready as well. but i also need to be prepared for the worst. like i said, i sense the three of them plotting a legal war against me. and i'm afraid i won't be prepared for what's coming. his lawyer has allowed him to do whatever he wants. drag this on .. sure. you want more? sure .. let's keep going. let's see who lasts longer.
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I thought you had caught up some.
i always knew i wasn't quite there yet. i knew that being happy wasn't enough. there had to be more. a mindset shift. and that wasn't there yet.
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"my separation is starting to become longer than most."
Really? Hmm.. I know a few people that have you beat... and they have kids.
this makes me feel worse. i have no kids. leaving him no reason to contact me at all. did these few people reconcile or are they headed down the d road?
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I am not the one you want supporting you when you are down. I am here to push you. As history has shown.. I will do it to a fault. Call me a "drama queen".
don't give up on me. the road is very long. and i need to continue to fight. i am venting my thoughts. it's better than me holding that back and not "telling" you and making you think everything is all hunky dory.
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But I only post where I think I can help. I would not be wasting my time if I did not think you had a chance. Nothing I have seen so far has said to me.. this "stitch" is done.
then we keep going. whatever happens in the end, i don't want to be more hurt than when i started this journey. my parents' biggest fear is that i will end my life and they won't be here to stop me. i don't want to hit rock bottom in the end. that's probably all i ask for. is to not let me get to rock bottom .. don't leave me on the floor when this all ends. but i may not be able to get myself back up. yes, i am very scared. this is part of me that i am risking. be vulnerable? unheard of.
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But.. you have to step out of your comfort zone.. and test the waters. It is gonna sting a bit.. but that is life.
