Relocated the family and he dropped the bomb

[MM78]

I am still absorbing all the advice given to me since last night.

I am confused on one thing though. I know talking to him about the R and M is not the right thing to do right now, but when he initiates it, it always seems to take me by surprise because we honestly haven't talked about these things in about 10 years. It is a 180 for me to be confident about us and be the strong one, usually I'm the weak one emotionally. So if I think he is asking me these things to look for reassurance that I believe it will work, I am still supposed to try to avoid the conversation? Just validate his feelings and listen? Wouldn't he view that as I'm in agreement that things are dismal and that he's right, divorce must be the right solution?

I feel like I should be 'getting' this more, I spend tons of time reading the books (both DB'ing and Divorce Remedy) and threads on here, my new FT job is focusing on all this, but then when it comes to applying it to my life I just get stupid again.