Bustorama-Thread 1

[MM78]

I'd be a little more picky with what things you help her with. Carrying files, I get that, but emptying the dishwasher and making her tea three weeks after a breast reduction??? I never had that surgery, but one week after my second c-section I was taking care of a newborn and a 22 month old, lifting 26lbs of her out of the crib and into the bath. The only things I didn't do until 2-3 weeks out were carry laundry baskets and tried not to vacuum (pulling on the abs in that activity). She knew when the surgery was and she wanted to move out so she will have to figure out how to make her new life work. I also understand that goes against your 180 about not neglecting her, I just think she is taking it too far.

I'd choose to help her on activities you really think she cannot do, don't go out of your way to brew some tea. I'd also consider when they are beneficial to you. If you go over to set up something for your kids room that is for them. If you go over at 6pm and get to have a family dinner, that is also a bonus for you. If she has you come over to be her nursemaid when the kids are asleep, you don't get to see them at all, not as much of a bonus.

Sorry if that comes off harsh, I just really feel like she is taking advantage of this post surgery excuse! I have a friend that had a reduction and I think she said it was a pretty simple and quick procedure and I don't think 3 weeks out she would be like that. (Now if she has an infection or complications, that is totally different.)