To Tell or Not to Tell

[A_goodman]

LRT,

You were worried about H's reaction because you did expect it. You hoped for a different reaction, but you were prepared. Ok, maybe not for whatever BS he spewed, but you knew the spew was coming. See? You are getting out ahead of the curve on him. I know, because you were able to control your emotions and not take the bait. If you had not been prepared, it would have been an ambush, and you would have fared worse. Seemingly small gains add up. You are stronger and more confident than you were at the outset. YOU WILL KEEP GETTING STRONGER! If you have to write it on post it notes to keep reminding yourself do it.

I know I'm ill suited to understand what you're going through. I know that the hormones coursing through you right now are severly complicating things, both mentally and physically. I don't know what to give you as advice. But I do know some things that might help.

You are a very intelligent, insightful person. Other women have the same hormonal and relationship challenges during pregnancy, but are hostage to them because they are not as smart as you. I think you will not become hostage to your own emotions. That will help you.

Your support system is lacking in the ability to physically hug you, and it takes more effort to communicate with it, but in my experience, it is just as powerful as having friends to confide in. Maybe more becuse we're annonymous, so there is no mental hang-ups about coming here and airing it out in all it's glorious detail. Of course, I'm a guy, so the mushy stuff (hugging, crying, sharing a gallon of Ben and Jerry's) isn't as important. Sexist? See annonymous above

I'm sorry your Mom's in bad health. I'll add her to my prayer list. (Yes I had to write it down. There's just too many of us poor bastards than need praying for.)

Sorry if the end got sarcastic. Humor too is something you could use right now.

The last thing I would add is that it's time to think about YOU and let the chips fall. Whatever decisions you make and whatever happens may cause a lifetime of self recrimination. don't do anything for any reason other than it's what YOU need and feel is right.

Much Love.