Why are you leaving your computer open for your wife to go thru it after she threatens to D you?
"yes wife, I get that you might be offended by people advising me to protect myself. That is part of the collateral damage done when families split. I had already decided to retain an L and do everything possible so that I am protected financially and with the kids if you pull the trigger."
Do you see how she turns this into her being the victim? It's how she plays on your Mr Nice Guy. When you stand up for yourself is when she will change her feelings. this is a test.
forget about tonite unless you handle things
Well, I'd feel really uncomfortable locking her out of the computer. Like I had something to hide.
The thing is, I haven't retained a lawyer. We've both agreed that we don't want to "lawyer up" at this point. So I can't say that.
I think I'll just tell her that "I understand that you might get upset by hearing family give me advice to protect myself. But that's one of the side effects when families split up, and not something to gloss over."
I don't know about locking my computer. I'll have to think about it.
