Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

As far as the reciprocation of affection, well, like everything else, you'll get different opinions on that. It is a personal decision. That is, it is your personal decision.

I'd like someone else to chime in on this. What are the positives and negatives?


The night she left, I had one of my best friends come over. He just so happens to be the husband of my wife's best friend. The same friend she went and stayed with that night.

I was emotionally distraught that night. Complete mess. I knew that I needed someone there with me, and he came. We sat and talked, he let me vent and we drank some beers. At one point he said, "You know, this is just not all making sense. There has to be something else you're not telling me John. This just does not make sense. What else is going on? There has to be something."

My W had asked me not to tell him or her friend about the A or the abortion... that it would harm her friendship with her best friend.

Well, my friend kept saying that 'there must be something you're not telling me'. I broke. I told him. I asked him not to tell his wife. He said that he would not.

But, he also sat there and said, "John, this changes everything."

Last night when W came over she told me that her best friend called her and told her, "I don't have the whole story because my H won't tell me, but if what I think happened is true, then you have made a vile mistake in your M."

W was really really upset about that. Was angry at me for telling my friend what happened. Said that I disgraced her trust. She then proceeded (while crying) to tell me that she doesn't speak bad about the things that I have done to them. That she tries not to talk bad about me. I replied with "I appreciate that, but I've told them all the bad things that I've done. They know all about me."

Frankly, part of me is happy she got a dose of reality for what she did.




Last night a pseudo-friend of mine that is involved in the same fraternity as me that I have met several times and chatted with just msg'd me on fb out of nowhere. I had been thinking that we should hang a while. He asked how I was doing, I said I was doing alright, just alot of personal stuff going on. He suggested we meet up, so we'll be hanging on Friday night. It's awesome that I have a great setup of friends right now... even ones that I've never made time for before.