After figuring out that I am going up North she now has no one to watch the kids. I guess she is not going on her trip. I kinda of wonder if she was ever planning to go on this trip or if this was a test. There have been a lot of test lately. So here is the latest.
We are both off on Labor Day weekend. So I asked her if she wanted to go somewhere with the family. She said no that she wants to spend the day by the pool. I said OK and asked the kids if they wanted to go to an amusement park, camping, the zoo, or sit at the pool. They both decided to go to an amusement park. I was going to tell the W that we were going to the amusement park but my daugher said something at dinner. So the W got mad (really mad) and wouldn't talk to me. I think I am still going to go and offer her the option to go. Regardless of what she says, we are going. It will be fun and it is the last day of summer vacation. I don't think this really isn't about the trip but the fact that she wants to control the relationship and family. I have been doing a lot of 180s and she is not sure how to handle these things. On a positive note, she has agreed to go to dinner, play cards, has talked to me every night (for at least a 1/2 hour), and seems interested in me. On the down side she is looking at Condo that we can't afford. I just don't know what she is thinking. Time to put some boudaries down and see what happens.
As Coach likes to say, "LEAD." Your actions should be "I thought it'd be fun to take the kids to the amusement park on Saturday. You're welcome to join us." If she pouts, bitches, moans, or whatever, YOU STILL GO, and you remain UPBEAT about it.
