MM78, I am sorry you are going through this. Its a truism that the more you hold on to them, convince them the M is worth fighting for, the more they run. The more you tell him it can work between you, the more it reminds him how he feel it can't work. Your H is all about his FEELINGS right now. He doesn't feel he loves you. Maybe you could try agreeing and validating him. Read up on posts by Robx and Gucci.
Maybe life has thrown you an opportunity to learn to care for yourself better and put yourself first. I recommend a book called "Put Your Big Girl Panties On" by Roz Van Meter which is all about learning to treat yourself well and take charge of your own life.
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369