I don't know how much [permanent] damage my honesty caused, but that response didn't sit too well with my 'brat' wife this evening...
I tried to communicate to her that she should not make any decisions about the future of our marriage based on her anger, unstable emotional state (I didn't tell her she was unstable), or until she has permanently severed her relationship with DJ. I told her there's no way she could look at the overall picture or state of our marriage with a clear mind while she was still involved with DJ. That didn't sit too well with the brat either...
In her state, there won't be any intelligent decisions. I said the exact same thing 3 months ago. She has not permanently severed anything and she won't have a clear mind. I keep reading you can't shortcut this. You and I both try and try and try. It starting to get like the coyote and roadrunner. This whole thing has to run it's course. About the time we have totally given up and accepted that this is just not going to get better and thrown in the towel, then the crap will start to fly. You and I started about the same time. "I am watching you McFly" (From Back to the Future)
