Irish,

Don't over analyze the past and what you may have done wrong.

Let it go.

Listen to keys he may say now.

A couple wks ago, my wife in a tirade said, "why'd she have to be so important, why didn't I do something with my friends when we were married."

She's dead on right, so I GAL and I have my bike and maybe she can see I have other interests other than smothering her.

As the LBS they make us feel bad enough as it is and we take on the pain of where we messed up, right now they don't care.

To them it's an excuse, some of it, some of it is what they need or want from a relationship.

I use Grace's rubberband idea that she gave me in my thread.

I'm upto over 12 bands, kind of a laughing stock at work, fashion statement to others that don't know why I where them.

Snap 'em hard.

Focus on today and tomorrow.

Keep reading the archives.

They go to the past, but project kinda what they were looking for in a relationship, so be and do those things.

And just keep praying.

ps. I jumped a couple pages to catch up, why ask if he's in a relationship. It only adds to your hurt, not his.

Assume he is, know it's a band aid. And there isn't anything we can do about it.

Keep it up luck of the "Irish."