I also wanted to say that since the baby was born 7 weeks ago, I probably did better with DBing than the months before. With my hands full, and busy with feedings and diapering and baby this and that, truth is I haven't had much time to dwell on my M to H. Yes, we had a few conversations and moments. But different from before. I realized I didn't need anyone anymore. My son truly means the world to me. I think I indirectly DB'd and was the happiest I'd been in a long long time! I felt confident and tryly happy and content! My focus became me and my son. I accepted this is my family, and that H would always be a huge part of my life. I didn't pressure H to be with us.
I truly believe this pushed Hs feelings to where he is today. Funny though, all the past few months where I swore he was giving me mixed signals, and here he was in fact having feelings and doubts of his decision. But now he is very direct and forward.
I hope he continues to fight through for us...
H said he was afraid I didn't want to try anything anymore... Wow! I acted like well... We can try... Its going be hard work but sure.