Oh man, talk about making mistakes. A few weeks ago she was cycling, I let her suck me in to her drama, and she was arguing trying to convince me that this entire mess is between her and I and no one else - nothing to do with our children, her parents, my parents, or even her EA partner.
Mistake #1 - Me pointing out to her that she pushes away everyone that loves her, yet allows herself to carry on talking to DJ (the EA guy who lives in China).
Mistake #2 - This evening I stopped her spewing at one point and pointed out what my son said to me just yesterday (see the post above my previous one) about having to lie to the neighbors because he doesn't want them to know that his mom and sister moved out of our family home. My wife's response? "So I moved out. That's my choice. Gabe shouldn't be embarrassed to tell the truth. He should just tell the truth."
Oh man, that pissed me off. I told her that, "No, since you were the one that made the choice to move out, and since you continue to make the choice to talk to DJ, YOU should tell the truth, not Gabe. The burden should not fall on him to answer any damn question (lie or not) about his mom's stupid choices.
I don't know how much [permanent] damage my honesty caused, but that response didn't sit too well with my 'brat' wife this evening...
I tried to communicate to her that she should not make any decisions about the future of our marriage based on her anger, unstable emotional state (I didn't tell her she was unstable), or until she has permanently severed her relationship with DJ. I told her there's no way she could look at the overall picture or state of our marriage with a clear mind while she was still involved with DJ. That didn't sit too well with the brat either...
