OK,

I've been lurking...just for fun google midlife crisis and divorce.

And then look at some of the comments.

Man there unfortunately is not a thing we can do or say.

They are stuck in "denial or delusion."

Have you heard that term?

I did early in my wifes ..it's projection.

Everything about you is going to be rewritten or your fault.

If she wants you out of her life, come hell or high water, right now that's what she's going to do.

I am a little over a yr in this and whoa the pain, the obsession, the wanting a crystal ball.

My wife has the black eyes and is mean as hell and she even listened to a psychiatrist.

Eventually we get it and like you, yeah I'm going to follow my heart, but you know.

Don't make the mistakes a lot of us make early.

We push, we try to rationalize, we defend.

Soon you'll see she won't remeber something from a couple days ago.

Listen, you pray, have a beginners mind everytime.

This is what's in your favor, you miss what you don't have.

She's not "home" you act like you don't miss her and don't try to fix her it won't work.