Why do you critique him? How do you think it makes him feel when you do that? Are you overly critical? Is it your way or the highway? Do you believe there are different parenting styles?
These are 'easy' to answer though. Critiquing was the basis of my whole career - in quality assurance I was a 'nitpicker'. My job and success was based on me finding fault with the work of others. I realize this is not conducive to relationships.
I do not think I am overly critical but I think that just being around when he is with the kids, they gravitate to ward me because I anticipate their needs, I know when things are about to escalate and can diffuse their tantrums, etc. I have made comments that were meant to be silly regarding his outfit choices which I realize are deprecating - like, I guess school will know it was daddy's day to dress you guys, when they have hair in 5 barrettes all over and are dressed like boys. I can see this was wrong and petty and something stupid to criticize.
Me 32 H 32 Ds 3.5 and 1.5 M 5 years, T 14 years EA/Bomb: 7/1/10 PA revealed: 9/14/10 Legally separated: 10/01/10
