a. How does she know what you cared about? You are the expert on you. She can be the expert on herself. You are an equal parent and you will make time.
b. Retrouvaille does not take couples that just sign up. They will call and insist on speaking to both of you. They will ask each of you if you are involved with another person. They will ask each of you if you will go with an open mind and a willing heart. You have to get her to agree to go, you can't just register.