The first suggestion that comes to mind is to recommend you either download or go buy a couple books by Terrence Real. He's a therapist who specializes in working with men. I've listened to two of his books - 'How Can I Get Through to You - Reconnecting Men and Women', and 'The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work'. These are both exceptional resources and have been very empowering and enlightening to me, in understanding both myself and my H. He's also written another you might be interested in: 'I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression'. I haven't read this third book, but it has excellent reviews on Amazon.
Excellent advice for GAG (or anyone). I've read them all and have been to one of his three day workshops in Cambridge. Excellent.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
