What's confusing you? That just maybe, a "hybrid" approach might be best for you?
ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN OF IT!! It's finding WHERE in the continuum of hybrids between the two extremes I'm having difficulty settling at (or "to" for PEI)
Originally Posted By: PDT
I've sensed that you feel like if you just think this thing thru HARD enough, that some sort of a "magic bullet" approach will appear to you. You love the labels we use around here ("2a", "2b", "Bo-Peep," "Robx/Gucci," "infidelitus interruptus," etc.), and try to formulate and re-formulate and re-re-RE-formulate your plans.
Puppy,meet CD. The KING of over-analysis. I apologize for overthinking most things. In order to integrate plans into action, I need to be comfortable with it. Unfortunately, that usually means doing the 4 dimensional CAD Drawing view of the situation and running "war games" to find the likely end games. I know. You helped a lot with THIS VVVVVVVVVVVVVV
Originally Posted By: Puppy
YOU . . . CAN . . . NOT . . . CONTROL . . . HER.
I MUST realize that I can't run all the "war game scenarios" when I cannot use ANY expectation of what the "opponent's" strategy/reactions/actions will be.
CD-STICKY THAT SUCKA!!
Which you so eloquently wrote as :
Originally Posted By: PDT
And nor can you even control the outcomes of your own approach. There are variables at play here, not the least of which is your wife's free-will CHOICES. We can advocate that you do "X," and you can be the best g*ddam*ed Xer that this forum has ever seen, and it STILL may not work.
And to answer your final question about why is this confusing? Well, you kindly saved me more over anaysis and gave me THAT answer, too. VVVVVVVVV
Originally Posted By: Puppy
ALL of it needs to be filtered by YOU, knowing what you know about your own morals and integrity, and what you know about your wife, and you have to do what YOU think is most authentic, and what gives you the best chance of success.
Thanks. Protractor is put away and I'm coming in off the ledge.
