Pei, you are ok in my book. Just sayin.

I am so sorry you had to have that talk with your children. It sucks all the way around.

And I get why you were mad. I do. You're human and he poked you where it still hurts. And I know you felt disrespected. But you know what, screw him. There, I said, it. How's that?
I dont give a rat's as@ about him. Let him blow in the wind.

Really. You be the wonderful Pei that you are. You talked to your kids. Now, get out of the way. Do not say anything against their daddy because in the future, it will come back to bite you.

And you do what you have to do for them. Dont expect a thing from him. And I do not say this to give him a pass. Uh uh, no freakin' way. I say this because you have to be the one who is there for them right now. You have to be the adult.

It matters how you handle yourself. It matters that they feel secure and loved with you. They are watching and it matters.

Now boys, if you all dont stop your nonsense of going back and forth on this thread, you will have a 5 ft Brooklyn chick so far in your face you wont know what hit you.

Got it?

And Pei, I know you can handle yourself. I know these boys look out for you and care about you. But geez, LOL!