I couldn't (though it's clearing) see how I could interact with her WITHOUT feelings. AM I reading this wrong? We're not talking about going all Mr Spock here, are we? Sorry, but can't do that. And shouldn't either as that is likely "more of the same"
Mr Spock does not scream "catnip" to me or "better option"
And to use another of Coaches expressions, she is NOT the mailman. She is my D's mother and an almost 7 year chunk of my life.
I believe THIS vvvvvvvvv is where I'm trying to get right now.
Originally Posted By: Coach
Detach and look at the situation in 360 degrees. State your goals (which are consistent with your beliefs) and come up with a plan of action. If your actions work keep doing it, if not try something new. Open your mind and don't let fear hold you back from acting.
And I think this vvvvvvvvv is where the experiment is now
Originally Posted By: Coach
If your actions work keep doing it, if not try something new. Open your mind and don't let fear hold you back from acting
I am in the "release the fear stage" and the first concrete (according to some here) evidence of "working" is the tone changes when I stand up to disrespect; the crying event when I stated I loved her as the mother of my child and, most recently, the WOA's I dropped into texts. That's beginning to "point me" in the direction I should be going.
AM I happy that the A continues? NO. Am I seeing "looks back"? I think so. But I HAVE to keep walking the other way in MY journey. And part of that is narrowing down the road I'm on.
This the current confusion. I feel I am close to "THE ROAD". Just not 100%. And I am stuck between "pick it and go" and "second-guessing myself to a standstill"
The "standstill" is evident in my hope increasing my expectations. And I need to keep expectations at ZERO.
Sorry if it's rambling but I'm thinking it through as I go.
