...you did this in your M because you thought that if you did she would love you?
I suppose I saw it as "giving" everything I could rather than what it actually was- "giving everything of value to both her and I away". I didn't see that not only was I devaluing me in my eyes but also in her eyes. I know better now.
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
Flaw in the relationship or you? Where does the responsibility for that lie?
Flaw in me. Lies with me. My responsibility to change it, too.
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
And you want to change that now why?
Because I don't want to relive this with her or anyone else. And mostly because I see that it is the healthy way to live. In more than just my M.
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
This is something that "stings" from your M that you want to change?
Yep. Add that to the "age" stinger. But that one bothers me more because I can't change "age". And that premise undermines and devalues the entire M to a complete fraud/farce. And I stand by my belief that it that was not the case. It was the personal dynamic that developed a year after the wedding (living together for almost 3 years) that spiraled under the pressures of our simultaneous streeses at the time.
