Thanks, Sunny. I couldn't have answered that question better myself.

Originally Posted By: SunnyD

Those who are willing to ignore the gut (which is destructive) and go with "what works" sometimes find it hard to determine which course of action is right because all sound good and plausible in context, even when they are contradictory. We want the best shot of saving our marriages so we want to choose the best option, not just a good option.


And this is when we have to rely on what is best for us; our situation and holds closest to our personal values but free of "feelings".

Thanks for this.

And now, to get to the other responses I missed.

Thanks again, Sunny