You can stand in the middle on the tallest box and wear the medal that reads "I did not cheat"
I think H understands that now very clearly too.
Keep that medal and hold on to it. You earned it.
Show it to your children later.
Oh, bite me, TG. That's SO unfair, and just so NOT HELPFUL to PEI at a time when she's ALREADY HAD THIS TALK with her kids, and ALREADY MADE this speech to her husband.
How about checking the DB ideology at the door, and just SUPPORTING her for 24 hours, before taking that kind of a shot???
There's a time for challenging, and a time for support.
I know how much this must have hurt. You did a great job IMO. I think one must have children to truly understand the pain one feels when you have a conversatioin like this.
Now...you have admitted your mistakes - forgive yourself and forget them.
You have spoken your truth and set your boundaries - now live them.
You have let go - now keep steppin...
Your angry and I know it. Let that anger out. Let it propel you. Let it feed you drive. Then accept.....yes accept...that you girlfriend ROCK. You are a very strong women, you are a compassionate person. Let that compassion show thru your actions toward your H. THat is not to say be a doormat - no what I am saying is that you have already spoken to your H. Now leave him be.
Finally, do me a favor....I want you to make some choices today..choices about you and your life. Post them...
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I know how much this must have hurt. You did a great job IMO. I think one must have children to truly understand the pain one feels when you have a conversatioin like this.
Now...you have admitted your mistakes - forgive yourself and forget them.
You have spoken your truth and set your boundaries - now live them.
You have let go - now keep steppin...
Your angry and I know it. Let that anger out. Let it propel you. Let it feed you drive. Then accept.....yes accept...that you girlfriend ROCK. You are a very strong women, you are a compassionate person. Let that compassion show thru your actions toward your H. THat is not to say be a doormat - no what I am saying is that you have already spoken to your H. Now leave him be. Eric
Agree 100%. I call it "giving grace." The way you treat your spouse from this point forward will keep the door open to any possible future reconciliation, and say a lot about you as a person as well, PEI.
I choose love, strength, honesty. I choose to be true to me even in the face of adversity. I choose to own and acknowledge my hurt and anger and I choose to not quit on myself. I choose to stand up even when beaten down. I choose to learn and grow. I choose to say F you ... you can not take what I won't give.
Thank you Eric. T
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
Oh, bite me, TG. That's SO unfair, and just so NOT HELPFUL to PEI at a time when she's ALREADY HAD THIS TALK with her kids, and ALREADY MADE this speech to her husband.
Sorry Pup I disagree. I did support her in her talk with her kids.
PEI is a friend beyond what gets posted here and I would not have said what I said if I didn't believe it
...and that she would benefit from hearing it.
There are tough days. Some are tougher than others.
Every day is an opportunity to move forward.
PEI doesn't need me to coddle her.
She comes here because she knows she will get support and honesty.
And I hope you won't be too disapointed if I don't bite you
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
Sorry Pup I disagree. I did support her in her talk with her kids.
PEI is a friend beyond what gets posted here and I would not have said what I said if I didn't believe it
...and that she would benefit from hearing it.
There are tough days. Some are tougher than others.
Every day is an opportunity to move forward.
PEI doesn't need me to coddle her.
She comes here because she knows she will get support and honesty.
As this is her thread, I'll leave it for her to respond. I stand by what I said. There's a HUGE chasm between "coddling" and the sarcastic crap you delivered so close to having to tell her kids. I just though it was a really low blow.
Boys ... play nice there's room for all of us in the sandbox.
Pup, I do respect your opinion and truly appreciate your support. I have learned a lot from you and I really do feel like I've gotten my footing again. "What's best for my kids?" is going to be my credo from here forward, potential reconciliation is not my motivation. ... that being said, a civil or friendly relationship with their father is what is best for my kids. I hope he'll respect me so it's possible.
Grit, you too, and you know that. Honestly dude ... timing can be everything, and today was a pretty raw day for me ... the kid thing is just sooooo damn hard. I know you come from a loving place.
I'm standing tall (or at least as tall as I can with this 5'2" frame!) PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
Sorry Pup I disagree. I did support her in her talk with her kids.
PEI is a friend beyond what gets posted here and I would not have said what I said if I didn't believe it
...and that she would benefit from hearing it.
There are tough days. Some are tougher than others.
Every day is an opportunity to move forward.
PEI doesn't need me to coddle her.
She comes here because she knows she will get support and honesty.
As this is her thread, I'll leave it for her to respond. I stand by what I said. There's a HUGE chasm between "coddling" and the sarcastic crap you delivered so close to having to tell her kids. I just though it was a really low blow.
Puppy
I have to admit it was my first reaction too Grit. But I know how it was intended. Just keep timing in mind dude ... momma bear was pretty raw. But I'm got my BGPs on and I'm ok.
Now .... play nice .... PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
there's room for all of us in the sandbox.