Isn't the idea to not to engage in silliness while maintaining a civil attitude? Not falling into traps that I have before?
NO. The idea is to be so attractive that someone who has become bored with the mundane sees nothing but excitment and falls head over heels in love with you. You lead, you flirt, you engage in conversation that does not allow them to regurgitate the negativity of their day but want to tell you about their goals and dreams. Then you make them feel like that is the only thing that matters in the world. You make them laugh. Do this no matter who you are with, your walk away wife, your loving wife, someone that takes an interest in you, your colleagues, and your clients. It is as simple as making someone feel that when they are around you they are important.
It is hard to find "chemistry" with someone who cannot break the silence and allows themselves to be uncomfortable. It's hard to want to develop "chemistry" when the other person does not want to know everything about you and challenges you to let them know more.
My only recommendations, if the dinner thing is periods of awkward silence and arguments start choosing to split an appetizer. It makes for a much quicker change of scenery if the social interaction starts to go down hill. Try not leaving your date/wife alone at the table to go have a smoke. Wandering eyes find attention. And, throw out your diary products, because in your bonehead move to make a point, your milk and mayonaise sat unrefridgerated.
A bit of useless knowledge: The Capgras delusion (or Capgras syndrome) is a disorder in which a person holds a delusion that a friend, spouse, parent or other close family member has been replaced by an identical-looking impostor.
Be your own Doppelgänger that represents mystique and desire.
