Aside all the joking and having a bit of fun here, the sobering reality is that the ONLY person you can control is yourself. The vets have been trying to drive home this main point to you (and other newcomers here). I DB'd my butt off for 2 years and yet XW exercised her free-will choice to end the M. *shrug*
Did I "lose" the fight? No. I am a much better person from all of this experience and much more aware of how R works in generally (oh yeah...took about 2 binful of self-help books recommended from this site). I have a great new gal in my life!
