That's it exactly, GM23 -- you don't get over the death of a M, you get through it.
Just as with any other loss.

Me: 49
WAW: 47
S11, S7
Years Married/Together: 17/18
Bomb: 6/15/07
Separation: 7/6/07
D: 4/3/09

Real love is a decision.
Marriage is a commitment.