What's confusing you? That just maybe, a "hybrid" approach might be best for you?
CD, from the very beginning, I've sensed that you feel like if you just think this thing thru HARD enough, that some sort of a "magic bullet" approach will appear to you. You love the labels we use around here ("2a", "2b", "Bo-Peep," "Robx/Gucci," "infidelitus interruptus," etc.), and try to formulate and re-formulate and re-re-RE-formulate your plans.
I said this to you early on, but it bears repeating today:
YOU . . . CAN . . . NOT . . . CONTROL . . . HER.
And nor can you even control the outcomes of your own approach. There are variables at play here, not the least of which is your wife's free-will CHOICES. We can advocate that you do "X," and you can be the best g*ddam*ed Xer that this forum has ever seen, and it STILL may not work.
So YES, you will get conflicting advice here. Some of it will even be the OPPOSITE of advice previously given. Some needs to be done IN CONJUNCTION WITH previous advice. and ALL of it needs to be filtered by YOU, knowing what you know about your own morals and integrity, and what you know about your wife, and you have to do what YOU think is most authentic, and what gives you the best chance of success.
