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And yet another one: (This is me working through a dilemna I have concerning boundaries/attitudes/love/friendliness. It's a constant learning curve for me, usually swinging from one extreme to the other trying to get to the center balance point:

I just read up a little again and saw this:

I tried to explain in the rest of the post what I meant in that I cannot maintain the same attitudes

I see it's not love you're talking about but rather the expression of you in your interactions. I think it ends up coming down to semantics.

Love - a desire to be and act intimate to a certain degree
Attitude - your protection of your reaction to the situation
Actions - what you do/say based on boundaries you have drawn or not drawn. No boundaries, wide open expression of yourself and they of themselves. Tight boundaries - relevant expression based on the boundary.

You can love someone and eject them from your life. Take away the expression of that love as being friendly and nice. You don't act mean, you just don't act friendly.

You can also dislike someone and keep them in your life.

The conundrum is this - they act disrespectful at one time, then act nice and respectful, then act disrespectful, etc... do you enforce the boundary each time they are being disrespectful or do you freeze all friend type interactions until they stop the pattern? I would imagine it depends on what the person is willing to take and deal with.

In the case of an A, that's an ongoing act of disrespect so it's more cut and dry.