You aren't responsible for all of her emotions. Be a rock, listen and validate. No need to defend yourself.
STOP trying to suggest to her that she should try and heal by trying something different. She's being clear that's not what she wants right now, so listen to her and empathize. When she says you aren't doing anything she asks, ask her to tell you more about what she wants (other than you moving out which you said before was one of your non-negotiables).
Do try to maintain contact (even in email or txt) so that the W knows where you will be a week ahead of time when it involves scheduling issues with kids. It is common courtesy to a friend or roommate to share that information. BTW, you do NOT have to justify your being there to her, however. You simply will be there. It could be seen as passive aggressive not to share that information simply because you can't do it in phone or in person. You can send a heads up txt or email the week ahead. I've failed myself in this respect before sometimes.
The more you pursue her/try to talk her into trying something new to heal/etc, the less likely will she 'come around' You are tug of warring with her when you do this.
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
