*sliding sideways on stage from behind curtains* Air strumming a guitar in coool glasses in white socks doing the Risky Business jig! Howdy everyone...I like Puppy's pool party here! Can I bring my Bud Lite and arm wings?
PEI: Madam, sorry for the disrespect..errr...let me revise accordingly. I am gonna switch you from being that "nice lady" to "sassy lady!" Better m'lady?
Regarding comments about love. I say love is a choice. A daily choice.
CD:
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I know many say the LBS shouldn't pursue the D but if I don't do something it won't happen.
Dude...time for a reality check. You are a male (the last time I checked...yep) which compels you to fix something and no movement from W is driving you batty. Which means...don't act on those feelings. Be SMART in DBing. Don't make it wasy on the W regarding D since SHE wants it and let her do the D stuff. And you have not given DBing enough time to take effect...although it is already starting to happen and slowly becoming apparent in your sitch. Read on.
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She looks tired and older in her face.
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She thanked me again for the nice words Friday.
DBing works...she is feeling the stress and pressure of living with the 23-year old OM & his ragtag family, starting a new job, and paying for OM's schooling. And she remembers your WOA!!! That slow dribble of WOAs from you will go a long way in W's mind and the contrast between you and OM is starting to emerge in her mind (even though she is not telling you anything or giving any indications). Ye be sure that she defnitely is mentally taking notes of you during all of your interactions (phone calls, convos, texts and exchanges)!
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I can't say she's coming around as I didn't feel her situation/stance changed. I saw nothing to suggest it. Her physical appearance is worsening.
Remember my caution that WASes move at a glacier pace. Just ask Puppy and Allen. Again, stay still and be quiet---and WATCH. Things will change fairly quick and soon since W is starting a new job and OM will begin his studies probably next week (if not already begun).
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She did stand closer to me than normally initially...
This is a very good sign. This means that W feels safe and comfortable with you. Keep up with the positive and respectful attitude. One suggestion is to be the first to end convos. That will fluster her and make her wonder about what you're up to.
General Questions for CD:
1) When was the last time W was in your house? 2) Which rooms did she enter during the last visit? 3) When did she move out of the house?
This will help us give you some input in revising and refining the DB game plan a bit more.
That slow dribble of WOAs from you will go a long way in W's mind and the contrast between you and OM is starting to emerge in her mind (even though she is not telling you anything or giving any indications). Ye be sure that she defnitely is mentally taking notes of you during all of your interactions (phone calls, convos, texts and exchanges)!
