Feels strange that whether there is any movement toward a better R or not, each day is one step closer to the D.
Make the choice to be in a better place regardless of the outcome. Focus on the process of becoming a better man that can thrive in a crisis. Crisis = Risk + Opportunity.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
The feelings change so much every step in the process to a better R or closer to divorce. It is tough to keep up with how much things change day to day.
Life will keep moving forward for you one way or another.
Last edited by LSG; 08/23/1003:23 PM.
ME-41 W-33 M-8 D-8 S-4 D 5/17/2010 www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1961097#Post1961097
Risk + Opportunity. That's food for thought. Very similar to Operational Risk Management (ORM) that we have in the Air Force.
LSG, It's also strange knowing I am on an emotional roller-coaster that goes up and down on a daily basis, but that I show a calm demeanor in front of the W not matter how I am feeling. Sometimes it's like having a split personality.
I did find myself alone in the car the other day and a rock song come on the radio that was popular when I was in HS. I cranked up the tunes and just yelled (sang poorly) with the song at the top of my lungs like I did when I was a kid. Man that felt good. I guess stress builds up more than I thought but moments like that is a nice release valve.
Me 44, W 39, S 6, D 6, M 21 Bomb June 18, 2010 I filed D July 20, 2010 W filed counter suit Aug 2 Rings came off Aug 5, 2010
"Would you mind if I took the kids to Disney World 10-13 Feb?
The reservations are mostly booked for this year.
Kids have a half day on 10 Feb that they would miss. I would get with their teacher's to discuss any issues that I would miss at the parent-teacher's conference that day. 11 Feb is a no school day 12-13 is a weekend.
We would leave on Thurs and be back on Sun."
XW's cant go on trips to Disney...sorry.
As David Lee Roth says in the song, Gigolo, "Life goes on with out me"...in this case. Without her.
Me 44, W 39, S 6, D 6, M 21 Bomb June 18, 2010 I filed D July 20, 2010 W filed counter suit Aug 2 Rings came off Aug 5, 2010
I listened to the game on the radio while swimming with the kids. If only the Red would go on a five game losing streak soon! Maybe a couple of them. I can remeber listening to Jack Buck and Mike Shannon on the radio. It was better than watching it on TV. Not so much, anymore. Shannon is still there but it's not the same without Jack.
Anyway, it sounds like you had a great time. You sound good and the trip to Disney sounds great. And you're right,
The game was great! The Disney thing has caused a fight.
Email trail: This is the most she and I have communicated in weeks.
From W, I don’t have a problem with you taking them but you cannot book/reserve anything until the divorce is final due to the financial retraining order.
To W, I can not spend marital funds on non life necessities. I can always make reservations which can be cancelled up to 30 days before the trip with no financial obligation or fees. If you still have a qualm with that I will borrow non-marital funds from family to pay for it.
On another financial topic. The VISA credit card you have been using solely is a joint account and is overdue payment today. No I did not get a bill. The bank web page shows it's due today. Please take care of this and do not let my credit rating go down
From W, You cannot use the credit card to book/make reservations. As far as the VISA, use the joint funds you took out of my bank account to pay for.
To W, The joint funds out of "our" bank account. If it was your bank account I couldn't have moved anything. Your paychecks are also joint marital funds and can pay for your own hair coloring and auto oil changes. I made the reservations.
My wife is welding a lot of power. She is not only interpreting the court order for "life's necessities" she is also making exceptions to the judge's order by telling me to pay off the credit card for her non-life necessities like $72 hair coloring, etc.
Chuck66
Me 44, W 39, S 6, D 6, M 21 Bomb June 18, 2010 I filed D July 20, 2010 W filed counter suit Aug 2 Rings came off Aug 5, 2010
I knew she wouldn't be a peach when she got home. I said hi and she said nothing. She fed the kids before I could even get into the house. I was planting trees and she got the kids in bed and was in bed herself with all the lights off in the house before 8:30. Another day in paradise.
Me 44, W 39, S 6, D 6, M 21 Bomb June 18, 2010 I filed D July 20, 2010 W filed counter suit Aug 2 Rings came off Aug 5, 2010
