It all depends on the situation as to how long it takes for one to move foward with their life and put the crap behind them.
If your spouse was an incredibly selfish, weak, angry and STD infected person, it allows for a much quicker recovery for the LBS. I was over the emotional aspects several months before the D was final. I've realized that there are much better fish in the sea.
Having lawyers haggle over the financial's and limiting contact of such matters with the STBX is the best way to go.
