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[john28]

Let her wonder about you, and let her feel the consequences of leaving.

The problem I have... with this ...

Is not that it is bad advice for where John's head needs to be. It's that it is not where his head is at.

All the well-meaning advice in the world doesn't really work when it's cherry-picked through the confirmation biased lense of somebody who desperately has not deatched.

To you John:

We know how hard this is as we have all lived it, but there is a difference between having hope and holding on. You can let go without closing the door to future reconcillation, but by holding on you only get closer and closer to a time when you, yourself, will want to close that door and lock it for good.

Letting go is hard, yes. It's the toughest thing I've ever had to do in my life. To let the love of my life go on without me, and for me to go on without her. I want more than anything to let go - to be rid of this pain in my heart... and I know that is the only way I can rid it.

Thanks for the reality check, TH. I keep getting those over here time and time again from you guys and I'm just too weak at times to follow my own advice and yours. I know i must be strong, if not for myself, my son. He wants a dad to be stronng, not weak.