Another long term relationship bombed

[A_goodman]

Pookie,

As promised, I am now caught up on your thread. I appreciated that you took the time to "hijack" me the other day. It's always good when you discover you're not alone.

I'm sorry for you though. Wouldn't wish all this on anyone. Coach gave me some very important affirmation about some of the things I'm trying to formulate as a plan. I think that you have a duty to stand by her until you find out for sure what her condition is and then afterwards if it might take her life. She can be a $hithead just like mine, but she's your $hithead. She's scared and confused and those negative aspects of her personality are going to come out during those times when she's really feeling it. If she doesn't outright reject your support, stick it out. Coach and Puppy both councilled me on this. they both said be there for her, but also not to accept CB.

I'm not all the way sure how I will do it, but I'm going to try.
I hope for both of us that the health issues are run to ground and turn out to be less serious than suspected. There'll be plenty of time to resume full-on db if so. In the mean time, those aspects of DB that are good for her, i.e. taking the lead; being emotionally strong; having self respect and confidence; Keeping your self physically strong, mentally alert and morally straight will all help you and her.

I have temporarilly discontinued my focus on our future and M. I will be there for my W and try and lighten the load as much as possible while WE face this.

I guess, this is not really advice. I'm not sure how it will all play out or even how I will advance. But it is my planned aproach and I thought I'd share it with you.

Good luck man. I'll stay tuned in.