A new day ... or something equally cliche ....

[CD Bear]

I, for one, and in my own opinion (true to my values) agree completely with PEI.

I look forward to the day that I can calmly and rationally pull this off.

My sincere thanks for posting all this, PEI.

I needed to see it.

He says outright that he has not cheated ... he told me he was done before he hooked up with her and says that it's not cheating as a result of that, and it doesn't matter that we were still married, still engaging in marital relations, etc

I'm sure my W feels the same.

However, if you are "done", kindly let the rest of us know and clean up the loose ends before you act on it.