Question for the officially divorced

[kat727]

It has been two years since the divorce was final but a bit over 4 years since I found out about the affair. I think that is an important distinction because neither of us filed right away, but I was dealing with all of the issues of betrayal, etc. He also forced me into bankruptcy after he stopped paying all the bills the court ordered him responsible for.

I am over my spouse. I am sad at times that this is the way it turned out for my kids but we talk a lot and deal with those times when they come. We will be having some issues when he marries his affair partner in October, especially since all of the kids told him that they didn't want anything to do with it but he has planned it on his weekend with the girls.

I think the timing that Nocode said is about right. I was married just 17 years when I found out and divorced shortly after our 19th anniversary. However, you have to do the work on yourself because time can't do it all on it's own.

kat