Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[TimeHeals]

Let her wonder about you, and let her feel the consequences of leaving.

The problem I have... with this ...

Is not that it is bad advice for where John's head needs to be. It's that it is not where his head is at.

All the well-meaning advice in the world doesn't really work when it's cherry-picked through the confirmation biased lense of somebody who desperately has not deatched.

To you John:

We know how hard this is as we have all lived it, but there is a difference between having hope and holding on. You can let go without closing the door to future reconcillation, but by holding on you only get closer and closer to a time when you, yourself, will want to close that door and lock it for good.