She's ill... you need to research OCD, particularly germ avoiant and safety hypervigilance
it's actually called gad - general anxiety disorder. if you look it up, that's her.
they feel the need to protect people .. always that "better to be safe than sorry" mentality.
i want to go back to the topic of respect that i asked you before.
i don't think my h respects me for playing fair throughout. i let him take the lead on everything during the d-process. and didn't fight him on a lot of things (mainly because it got childish and wasn't worth fighting over). but i feel like i'll never earn respect for not being the vindictive lbs that he has heard a lot of horror stories about.
this is one of those examples where the person is so mad that they hate you for doing what you're doing (ie. exposure). exposure is the right thing to do if it's being done for the sake of your m. but the spouse having the A, there is no respect for you for doing the right thing. it's just hate. and that's why i have a hard time understanding how exposure can lead to respect. even in the best scenario, exposure hurts the other person so much that all they feel for you is hate.
