Whoops sorry, editing note - second last paragraph where I'm commenting on what I liked about Jody's advice to you... I didn't mean to say that Jody had suggested you keep a diary - don't think she said that - but more that I like'd she'd said you were human too. That you have a right to share your feelings too. Here's the reference I was remembering:

I replied that I have had a turbulent 6 months at work that has caused financial stress for me, but that as I understand DBing principles, if I talk to XH about this it will likely impose guilt (I left a very busy career for my current job because H/XH felt neglected because of my work schedule). Jody said that I can communicate this to XH in a guilt-free way. She suggested something like this: “New jobs all have stress. We always uncover some potholes, and boy am I finding out that there are some big black holes! I need a vacation. I’m trying to think about what short-term trips I can take”. She said I should let him know that I’m human too, but I’m dealing with my problem.

I think that's stellar advice. Anyways, I've rambled so long I don't know if I've given you what you were hoping for... but still, hope it helps. Take care, FMV.

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