Kids were asking to talk to him so I told him what had transpired. He got angry, I explained calmly that I did not do or say anything with anger. I simply respected our childrens' need to have time to process some of the changes in their world.
He started in on me, I told him I would no longer tolerate being disrespected. If he wanted an amicable co-parenting relationship then he could behave respectfully and honestly. The choice was his.
He said I was playing victim and blaming him for everything. I said I'm sorry you feel that way. I fully own my responsibility for what happened to our M, and to our dynamic. I can not however, own the responsibility for the choices he's made since January. Those are his. I did not want a divorce. I made many mistakes, I have many faults. But I did not cheat. In 15 years it was not always rosy for me either, but I did not cheat. I am far from perfect, I made lots of mistakes, but I did not cheat.
He said he fought for our M for the last 6 years and tried everything. I said that in hindsight I can see how hard he tried. I also said that I understand he was frustrated and tired.
I told him I will no longer enable or silently endorse his lies or disrespect. I will live a life of truth. I will be true to myself. I will be true to my children.
I said none of this with any expectations. This was for me.
I am still standing. PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
