although i have a lot of respect for puppy and allen, i don't always think that exposure works the same with everyone.
i raised the question recently about why the WAS would have respect for you if you've exposed the A. because if it was me, i'd be angry that it was outed very publicly and left me embarrassed. i would hate you for exposing my sitch rather than respect you for standing up for our m.
so i think the exposure technique only works if you know your spouse well enough. i don't think it'd work for me personally. if i outed my h as a mama's boy, it would send him running to his parents even more and he would hate me for embarrassing him in front of friends. but that's because i know how my h would react.
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They had some ugly words for me in the beginning--money grubber was my moniker from his mom!
keeping my mouth shut on that one. i'm taking your advice and not rehashing the past.
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I had my suspicions about the home thing too--and I had him put in writing that his intention is for me to keep the home. My L tells me this may be helpful.
this is so important. cover your butt. money seems to bring out the worst in us so develop a thick skin now.
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I have been tempted to go speak to his parents. They are good people, have NO idea what he is really like, and I have been wanting to spare them the "gory details",
what are you hoping to achieve by talking to his parents? i have to ask because his mother called you the 'money grubber'. and they are his parents so maybe they do know what he's like and they are enabling it. just a thought.
i'm really sorry to hear how things have been turning out. you are entitled to your 'raging' days. i hate to see this affect your children. it affects them no matter what age they are at. but you are setting a good example that you will not be pushed around. you matter in this m.
