After writing the post above, I feel conflicted. Part of me says to stop trying to make H the affectionate/loving husband he once was: that any attempt to try and get him to love me again is just going to backfire. That what I need to do is to quit trying altogether and keep finding ways to GAL for myself and perhaps that will be the only thing that might work.

I don't know if it's because I'm afraid of trying and getting my hopes up only to have them dashed or what.

It truly is almost better when H is not around and I don't have to feel the rejection of him being so distant.

Will time help any of this or will the lack of connection grow even further apart because he's making no attempt?

I guess I'm just having a rough morning. Yes, I want a man that can stand the heat...but I also want some heat (of a different kind!) in my marriage and not to just be roommates!!!

Last edited by SunnyD; 08/23/10 02:50 PM.