Recent observations for you to ponder on and decide if "I am happy for you!" is the better path;
Divorce One-Separated from wife three months ago, let hate consume him, met new girl two months ago...talking with new GF Friday night.."He is such an a@@hole....just filled with anger"
Divorce two-Wife left one month ago on drug and whoring binge...Husband was open around children with his anger. The children now say "We want mommy dead", "She is just a drug whore", and "I don't want to ever see her again".
Divorce three-A few years ago...talking with current wife.." He is still filled with anger at his ex-wife. When I ask him to do stuff around the house, he asks "If I don't will you leave me like my ex-wife?" and his children say the main reason mom left him was because he didn't do anything at home!"
All three are cases of men who could not give up the past...could not give up the pain....and will be continually cursed to relive the past until they face their responsibilities in what had transpired.
Can you be happy for some one if their actions hurt you? Of course.....I point out the obvious, more than likely you are not the cause of these actions and it is personal. People make choices...if you truly love someone you respect those choices. That doesn't mean you like the choices, just that you respect them.
Does it take time and reflection to get here...you bet. The question for you all is are you going to relive the past or move on in a healthy manner?
Be the bigger person...rise above the simple feelings....and then the statement "I am happy for you" becomes very easy.
TG-I am glad to see that you are getting there....The man you are becoming is much more impressive than the shell we first met in newcomers those many months ago
